Youth Matters

One of the bests posts I’ve seen on the subject, ma sha Allah.

from DEENDRIVEN.com

It seems like there are some people who are just thinking about taking off their hijab.  No one has created a step-by-step approach for it.  Here you go.

1) Stop thinking it’s a big deal. It’s  bad, but not that bad. There are people who drink, you know! Let this idea simmer.

2) Stop thinking about what others would say or think. You aren’t suppose to do good deeds for other people’s sake, it’s suppose to be for Allah.

3) *Critical step* Find and stick to friends who have already took off their hijab. They will give you their stories, why they did it and how it makes sense. Look how cool and trendy they are!  They’ll be the ones  who will provide you support after you take it off.
4) If you stopped wearing it, you are going to feel a little nervous.  You need to be armed with some replies.  Here are some commonly quoted reasons;

• “My husband/in-laws wanted me to, it’s part of being a good wife to listen to what they say”
• “You don’t understand, it’s tough to wear it at my workplace”
• “There is a difference of opinion”
• “There are girls who wear hijab and do bad things”
• If anyone tries to get to preachy, tell them they don’t know what’s in your heart and they can’t judge you.  It makes you feel real good.

5) Even after you take off your hijab, your heart will tell you to go back and you will doubt what you just did. Try to kill these feelings and thoughts.  It will be too embarassing to start wearing the hijab again.  Its like publically saying you made a mistake.  What will people say ?

An Amazing Comment:

Antigone says:

Praise Allah brother,

I’ve been deeply distraught recently concerning my wife’s trepidations on hijab. Allah forgive her, she is merely a confused woman.
I have tried many things; we have consulted Hadith by ourselves and alongside a respected Imam here in Bakersfield, but it was to no avail! She thought there was no hadith truly on point, despite my clear allusions to Sahih Bukhari Volume 2, Book 18 concerning hijab. I sat her down in front of my parents and yet she audaciously argued still, in front of her own in-laws! Needless to say my mother has still not recovered from the conversation.

I must admit brother, Allah forgive me, I almost lost hope. Despite the veracity of such legitimate and concrete sources, she just believed they were not applicable to modern life.
And then, mashallah I discovered your blog and this particular post. I quickly directed her to it though she read it reluctantly.
But soon thereafter she truly felt that someone finally spoke her language.
My brother, excuse my informality, but she “just got it”. Now I am more comfortable with being around her and we do not have this wall between us. She has accepted hijab and can’t believe she ever thought of taking it off. Don’t worry brother, I remind her everyday of Shaitaan’s trickery and her close slip up.

Mashallah, may Allah bless you and your wife. Take care brother.

admin says:

@ Antigone, as salaam alikuim

Your story almost brought tears to my eyes.

Firstly, all thanks belong to Allah as he is the Owner of our hearts. No one, not even Shaytan, can misguide someone, if He choose to guide them.

I felt like I won a million dollars today because I helped defeat Shaythan in his biggest goal, to try to cause separation between husband and wife.

Share it with others who might be going through this struggle.

Jezkallah khair for your dua. You two were in mine as well.

Ahmed